Anger

Anger: A strong feeling of annoyance, displeasure, or hostility

Anger Management: the process of learning to recognize signs that you're becoming angry, and taking action to calm down and deal with the situation in a productive way.

Coping strategies: an action, a series of actions, or a thought process used in meeting a stressful or unpleasant situation or in modifying one’s reaction to such a situation; a conscious or direct approach to problems

Personal Anger Assessment

The following assessment is designed to help you understand how you manage your anger.

ACTIVITIES

• For Parents- Communicating Validation.pdf
• Validating your child' anger is NOT agreeing with it, it's helping them feel heard, seen, and valued. 

• Determine if it is Typical or Troubled

  Use this checklist to determine if your child's anger is typical or if it indicates trouble. If trouble, contact your local youth counselor.

• Play an Anger Management Board Game

  Mad Dragon: An Anger Control Card Game is designed for children aged 6 to 12. 

• Watch Meditation Videos from Stress Free Kids

  Stress Free Kids YouTube Channel is filled with videos to help kids decrease stress, anxiety and anger. 

LINKS

• Managing Anger

  Managing anger resources from Coping Skills for Kids.com

• Anger Games: 14 Fun Ways to Learn Anger Management Skills

  Article from Very Special Talkes Parenting about a variety of fun ways to teach anger management skills.

• Find a Love & Logic Trainer

  Locate a Love & Logic Trainer to help you create a parent plan if you have a child who acts out in anger.

ORGANIZATIONS

• Parenting with Love and Logic

  The Love and Logic Institute is dedicated to making parenting and teaching fun and rewarding, instead of stressful and chaotic. We provide practical tools and techniques that help adults achieve respectful, healthy relationships with their children. 

• The Gottman Institute

  A research-based approach to relationships including an emotion coaching program, new parent workshops, and parenting tools.

• The Incredible Years

  The parenting programs are grouped according to age: babies (0-12 months), toddlers (1-3 years), preschoolers (3-6 years), and school age (6-12 years).

READINGS & RESEARCH

• Six Steps to an Emotionally Intelligent Teenager

  Six Steps to an Emotionally Intelligent Teenager: Teaching Social Skills to Your Teen (1999) by James Windell

• Parenting with Love and Limits YouTube Channel for Parents

  Parenting with Love and Limits YouTube Channel for parents.

• Healthy Anger: How to Help Children and Teens Manage Their Anger

  Healthy Anger: How to Help Children and Teens Manage Their Anger, 2006 by Bernard Golden

• Top 10 SEL Books for Parents

  Casel's Jennifer Miller recommends top social and emotional books for parents.

• Sibling Rivalry

  Read or listen to an article about sibling rivalry by Dr. Jennifer Shroff Pendley from KidsHealth.

• The Explosive Child

  The Explosive Child, 5th Edition: A New Approach for Understanding and Parenting Easily Frustrated, chronically Inflexible Children (2014) by Ross Greene, PhD is a groundbreaking approach to understanding and parenting children who frequently exhibit severe fits of temper and other intractable behaviors.

Anger: A strong feeling of annoyance, displeasure, or hostility

Anger Management: the process of learning to recognize signs that you're becoming angry, and taking action to calm down and deal with the situation in a productive way.

Coping strategies: an action, a series of actions, or a thought process used in meeting a stressful or unpleasant situation or in modifying one’s reaction to such a situation; a conscious or direct approach to problems

Personal Anger Assessment

The following assessment is designed to help you understand how you manage your anger.

ACTIVITIES

• Use the Anger Thermometer

  Plan the anger management techniques that you can use for situations that trigger anger. 

• Lemons or Lemonade Anger Workbook for Teens

  Learn how to express anger appropriately.

• I'm Not Bad, I'm Just Mad

  I'm Not Bad, I'm Just Mad contains forty activities for issues such as recognizing anger triggers, better problem solving, and communication tips for defusing conflict before it gets out of hand.

• Call or Text a Teen Help Line

  TEEN LINE is a non-profit, community based organization that provides emotional support to youth. It is our mission to provide peer based education and support before problems become a crisis, using a national hotline, community outreach and online support.

LINKS

• Atlas of Emotion

  Use this interactive tool to build your emotional awareness, understand why you are feeling a certain way, and gain greater control over your emotions and responses.

• Wellcast Video Series

  Twice-a-week quirky, animated show, explores the physical, mental and emotional paths to wellness with bi-weekly journaling exercises that helps you apply what you've learned. The ultimate goal: one year, one show, one journal, one collective journey to wellness.

• The Mood Meter App

  A self awareness app based on decades of research from Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence. Tell your Mood Meter mobile app how you feel and build emotional intelligence that lasts a lifetime. $0.99

ORGANIZATIONS

• Headspace

  Headspace offers mindfulness skills training and meditations to help deal with anger, stress, anxiety, sleep, and self-esteem.

• KidsHealth and TeensHealth

  KidsHealth and TeenHealth are dedicated to helping young people make the best health choices. Websites include articles, videos, and health tools with sections just for kids and teens.

READINGS & RESEARCH

• InspirED Students Skills Building

  Social and emotional skills building activities designed by Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence.

• Angry Octopus - Ages 5-10

  Angry Octopus: Children Learn How to Control Anger, Reduce Stress and Fall Asleep Faster (2019) by Lori Lite teaches children how to use progressive muscle relaxation and breathing techniques to calm down, lower stress, and control anger.

• Don't Rant & Rave on Wednesdays! - Ages 7-11

  Don't Rant and Rave on Wednesdays!: The Children's Anger-Control Book (1994) by Adolph Moser discusses the causes and effects of anger and provides advice on how to control and channel it.

• What to Do When Your Temper Flares - Ages 9-12

  What to Do When Your temper Flares: a Kid's Guide to Overcoming problems with Anger (2007) by Dawn Huebner guides young people through cognitive-behavioral techniques used to treat problems with anger.